Dec 17, 2010 - Life, Uncategorized    1 Comment

You can find it in yourself

“Anyone who loves in the expectation of being loved in return is wasting their time. Love for the sake of love itself.” – Paulo Coelho

You may have noticed by my reading list that I am a big Paulo Coelho fan. I also follow him on Facebook and love his daily quotes, patient reads and inspiration. Today, price he posted the quote included above.

When I consider this from a general love-everyone perspective, thumb it seems one of the greatest truths in life. If we love the people and world around us expecting to receive that love back, we may miss the greatest reward – giving freely of ourselves. I think when we open our hearts to other people, animals, nature, life, we also open our hearts to ourselves. Our souls grow. (reading: The Valkyries)

Now, receiving that love back (I like to call it Karma) is amazing. But expecting it will only leave us empty and discouraged. There is much more to be gained and appreciated when we love without reserve and without calculation.

However, I have been asking myself all day if the truth of this statement also applies to romantic relationships? Certainly, we can’t “keep tally” with our Loves. But what if one person continually gives and receives far less in return? Is that a healthy love? Or will loving unconditionally without end and not being given the same eventually cause emotional harm?

At the same time, I recall a quote that went something along the lines of, “just because someone doesn’t love you the way you want them to doesn’t mean they don’t love you in the best way they can.”

Perhaps I am interpreting the meaning incorrectly. Do you understand it differently? What are your thoughts?
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Dec 9, 2010 - Spirituality    No Comments

A love without end

“Anyone who loves in the expectation of being loved in return is wasting their time. Love for the sake of love itself.” – Paulo Coelho

You may have noticed by my reading list that I am a big Paulo Coelho fan. I also follow him on Facebook and love his daily quotes, stuff reads and inspiration. Today, he posted the quote included above.

When I consider this from a general love-everyone perspective, it seems one of the greatest truths in life. If we love the people and world around us expecting to receive that love back, we may miss the greatest reward – giving freely of ourselves. I think when we open our hearts to other people, animals, nature, life, we also open our hearts to ourselves. Our souls grow. (reading: The Valkyries)

Now, receiving that love back (I like to call it Karma) is amazing. But expecting it will only leave us empty and discouraged. There is much more to be gained and appreciated when we love without reserve and without calculation.

However, I have been asking myself all day if the truth of this statement also applies to romantic relationships? Certainly, we can’t “keep tally” with our Loves. But what if one person continually gives and receives far less in return? Is that a healthy love? Or will loving unconditionally without end and not being given the same eventually cause emotional harm?

At the same time, I recall a quote that went something along the lines of, “just because someone doesn’t love you the way you want them to doesn’t mean they don’t love you in the best way they can.”

Perhaps I am interpreting the meaning incorrectly. Do you understand it differently? What are your thoughts?

Nov 22, 2010 - Spirituality    1 Comment

A questioning heart

Whatever you believe, see believe it with all your heart.

My history with religion and spirituality has been a “wicked, page twisted road” (anyone know that tune?). From the time we were born, salve mom took me and the bros to church every Sunday.

Then I went through a couple of experiences in a very short time that had me beginning to evaluate the beliefs I had grown up with. When I started to really think about it, I found that my personal beliefs didn’t align with those of my family or the church.

For a long time, I focused more on what I didn’t believe than what I did. Then this spring I was dating a fellow whose beliefs differed greatly from mine. We often discussed our personal beliefs and challenged each other to defend our theological stances. And finally, I was forced to start truly examining my heart and the many different systems of belief that exist in the world. I thank him for that.

It’s been an interesting year as I’ve grown spiritually, and personally. But I now have peace in my heart and a greater love for the world around me.

If you are comfortable sharing, I would love to hear about your journey.

Note: Many people and tools helped me find clarity on my spiritual beliefs. I would like to thank Teamy for the reading recommendations, Bestie for the support and C&K for reintroducing me to yoga and journaling.

Jul 6, 2010 - Spirituality    2 Comments

Open or closed

Some of you know I have been on a spiritual crusade to learn more about the various beliefs people hold. The journey thus far has been very interesting as friends have shared with me their personal faith and beliefs, approved resulting is some thought-provoking discussions.

Tthe opportunity was presented to further my research into Islam, sale and I spent the afternoon at the Canadian Islamic Centre having a very open discussion with one of their staff. She was happy to share Muslim beliefs and culture with me, cost answered all my questions happily and honestly, and even invited me to watch asr (afternoon) prayer. And at the end of the day we called each other “friend”.

Canada (and many other developed countries) are home to a vast array of religions, cultures and nationalities. As this will likely only continue to grow, we have two choices: to allow our lack of knowledge to breed miscommunication and further animosity, or to learn about one another with an open heart. I certainly have a better understanding of many Muslim norms and will no longer shake my head when I see a woman wearing hijab.

This quote from Paulo Coelho sums up my thoughts on spirituality and religion:

To believe in your choice you don’t need to prove that other people’s choices are wrong.

May 28, 2010 - Uncategorized    2 Comments

A toast

So I was just wishing my friend a happy champagne birthday (28 on the 28th) and thinking, mind phew it’s a good thing I’m born on the latest possible day and have such a long time until my champagne b-day… Then I realized it’s only three years away.

May 21, 2010 - Family, Men, Women    No Comments

It should be a privilege, not a right

I think being a parent should be a privilege, malady much like a career. Because it basically is. When a person brings a child into the world, they need to be committed to preparing that child to be an adult. And not just an adult, but a productive member of society. Giving their time, their love and their dedication to developing that child into a good person from birth right through the rest of their life.

On one of my bike rides this week, I saw graffiti painted on someone’s back fence. I know this would be no big shock for those of you living in cities, but I live in a lovely (upscale, if you don’t mind me saying so) village.

Where the hell were that kid’s parents when he or she was disrespecting a fellow citizen’s personal property? Where have they been all that kid’s life when they should have been instilling character in their child?

Probably at work. Probably making money so they could buy that kid video games that would keep him or her entertained so they didn’t have to play with the child or teach them.

When did it become acceptable to bring a child into the world and then essentially abandon them?

Where are the parents these days?

May 11, 2010 - Uncategorized    3 Comments

It’s hard…

Being querulous when the sun is shining, rx the sky is blue and it’s destined to hit 20 today is really hard! Thank you, spring, for returning!

Instead, I will leave you with a couple of excerpts from Eat Pray Love, a book that has me doing some deep thinking these days.

“You need to learn how to select your thoughts in the same way you select what clothes you’re gonna wear every day. This is a power you can cultivate. If you want to control things in your life so bad, work on the mind. That’s the only thing you should be trying to control. Drop everything else but that. Because¬† you can’t learn to master your thinking you are in deep trouble forever.” – Quote from Richard in Eat Pray Love by Elizabeth Gilbert

May 8, 2010 - Uncategorized    2 Comments

Tag you are it!

I have been tagged by Stacy in a post this afternoon. Today we are playing: five questions, information pills five answers.

Where were you five years ago?

~Finishing up my last month working at NALF
~Packing up my apartment in Colorado
~Missing my family
~Spending my weekends at CSU and estate auctions
~Planning new business ventures

Where would you like to be five years from now?

~Traveling with the seasons
~Working less, ailment experiencing more
~Loving with an open heart
~Surrounded by people I love
~Planning new business ventures

What was on your to-do list today? (or is!)

~print pics for a Mother’s Day present
~submit project proposals
~pick up printing
~take dinner to Grandma
~read

What snacks do you enjoy?

~nachos
~cheese & crackers
~ice cream
~cereal
~chocolate covered nuts

What five things would you do if you were a billionaire?

~Give back to youth, abortion community, agriculture and research organizations
~Invest in land – lots of it – and keep it in agriculture
~Take care of my family, friends and those in need
~Travel
~Volunteer full time

And I’m tagging:

Robyn
Tiffany
Justine
Crystal
Cathryn

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