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Dear Sarah (2)

I have to believe you were an angel with a lesson for us all about unconditional love. Tolerance. Acceptance.

Though you were judged, more about you never passed judgement. Even when people expressed hate toward you, story you showed them love. You celebrated each person for exactly who they were, nothing more or less.

That’s not to say you were soft, or a pushover – you were a damn firecracker. But you could defend yourself and your stance in a heated discussion, and then buy your adversary a drink.

Because all that really matters in this life, is love. Love is the only thing you leave behind, and the only thing you have with you when you go. I wish you had known how much you were loved.

We can’t change what happened, but we can change ourselves and live the legend that you left us.

May we never miss an opportunity to give love to each person we meet, for everyone is fighting a hard battle.

Dear Sarah

It’s taken me a month just to be able to look up the website of the charity we were asked to donate to in your memory. I remember you mentioning it a couple of times, about it but I had no idea how deeply it spoke to you. Or how it would now speak to me. The first paragraph of their vision broke me down completely:

“You were created to love and be loved. You were meant to live life in relationship with other people, health to know and be known. You need to know that your story is important and that you’re part of a bigger story. You need to know that your life matters.”

I wonder if you did know. I wonder if you knew that every person who met you, felt blessed by your presence. I wonder if you knew the impact you had on everyone around you.

I’ll never know.

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The things that matter

I saw this on Pinterest  and loved it. It just hit home.

My entire life, pharmacy I had a list of “traits” that I was looking for in a man. You know, the ones all us ladies have: good looking, well employed, honest, responsible, blah, blah, blah. Plus a few unique ones such as agricultural background, doesn’t want kids, accepting of my spiritual beliefs… It wasn’t until this spring that I began to look at things differently, to open my mind and my heart.

I realized that not one of those things mattered. Yeah, sure, honesty and responsibility are important characteristics, but that’s all they are – a couple of small characteristics of a complete person who is so much more. And let’s be real – there are moments when each of us will act out of character to who we really are. It only took me 29 years to understand that I shouldn’t be looking for traits, but rather opening my heart to find the person who would help me become my best self, who would love me at my best and my worst, who I would want to give all of myself to.

And when I changed my heart, it changed my life. God, the Universe, whatever you want to call It – It doesn’t provide just because you ask, It provides when you are ready for what It will give you. I asked for a lot of things for a long time; when my heart was really ready for what I needed, then it was provided.

When I met him, it was like an “aha” moment. I learned about my spirituality and belief system. I took another step in my personal growth. And I saw a glimpse of the rest of my life.

I am gaining a better understanding of the things that matter.

Jun 25, 2011 - Life    No Comments

Lightbulb

I had an “aha” moment as I was crawling into bed last night.

They say people come into our lives for a reason, order a season or a lifetime and I’ve always believed that. But in that moment of clarity, dosage I really saw how the reason/season people have shaped my life over the past ten years. I also realized just how very much the type of influences I needed at different points either appeared or came back into my life at the right time.

College years were filled with people who gave me the tools I would need to launch my career (along with the fun friends who made a million memories I’ll always reflect fondly on). Without their presence, order I may not have had the confidence to pursue the jobs that prepared me for the launch of my own business.

In the early years of the business, I often marveled at the number of entrepreneurial women in my life, and felt so fortunate for their support and advice. Certainly without them the hurdles would have been tougher, and I might well have missed opportunities that they helped illuminate.

Then once the company was established, house bought, savings established, and the void inside me ever more obvious, I was blessed to have the guidance of people who helped me begin the personal growth and awareness I needed to tackle.

And now as I work to dismantle the protective layers I’ve so long enforced, and allow love to emanate to the world around me, I find the people who are best suited to help me do that are (re)entering my life.

I know I have a long way yet to go in this leg of my journey, but as I look back on how accurately the tools for success have been placed in my path, I’m no longer intimidated. Everything needed, will be provided.

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As I thought back on the people who have contributed so much to my life, it was a wonderment to realize there is one person who has been an influencer at each stage of my life since we were young kids. Thank you, my friend.

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Dec 17, 2010 - Life, Uncategorized    1 Comment

You can find it in yourself

“Anyone who loves in the expectation of being loved in return is wasting their time. Love for the sake of love itself.” – Paulo Coelho

You may have noticed by my reading list that I am a big Paulo Coelho fan. I also follow him on Facebook and love his daily quotes, patient reads and inspiration. Today, price he posted the quote included above.

When I consider this from a general love-everyone perspective, thumb it seems one of the greatest truths in life. If we love the people and world around us expecting to receive that love back, we may miss the greatest reward – giving freely of ourselves. I think when we open our hearts to other people, animals, nature, life, we also open our hearts to ourselves. Our souls grow. (reading: The Valkyries)

Now, receiving that love back (I like to call it Karma) is amazing. But expecting it will only leave us empty and discouraged. There is much more to be gained and appreciated when we love without reserve and without calculation.

However, I have been asking myself all day if the truth of this statement also applies to romantic relationships? Certainly, we can’t “keep tally” with our Loves. But what if one person continually gives and receives far less in return? Is that a healthy love? Or will loving unconditionally without end and not being given the same eventually cause emotional harm?

At the same time, I recall a quote that went something along the lines of, “just because someone doesn’t love you the way you want them to doesn’t mean they don’t love you in the best way they can.”

Perhaps I am interpreting the meaning incorrectly. Do you understand it differently? What are your thoughts?
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